Well, this article could not have summed up my feelings about Mothers' Day better - I've been a stepmother to four awesome kids - now 20, 19, 14, and 12 - for a bit over six years now and everything you said I feel, and I've tried to be that person you described. Whew, it's tough!
I love everything you write and appreciate, beyond measure, your insight, wisdom and humor. I’ve loved both of your books and hope that you are working on another. Thank you for being the best thing in my Inbox anytime you post. Enjoy your time in Florida!
Every STEPPARENT AND their SPOUSES should read this-- the golden rules of step parenting. However, even birth parents would do well to observe many of the same rules. Being a parent of any kind is both rewarding and difficult. Good luck!
Loved your article! My story follows similarly to yours in that I met and married within 7 months of meeting via a dating site, and I quickly became a stepmom to my husband's 7 year old son who is on the autism spectrum and has severe ADHD. C was always quick to correct anyone who even accidentally referred to me as his mom (which is the nature of his particular spot on the spectrum). I agree with you on the majority of your points, but when I my husband and I formed our family, it became obvious that neither he nor his exwife gave C enough consistency, including in the area of discipline, so I had to step in out of necessity. And my husband let me. C accepted it eventually and he's doing okay in life now, 16 years later, because of my "interference". It was extremely difficult raising someone else's special needs child, and he'll never understand the level of dedication and advocacy I provided as he grew up. I didn't get any acknowledgement today, and that's fine. I get to see his successes.
Well, this article could not have summed up my feelings about Mothers' Day better - I've been a stepmother to four awesome kids - now 20, 19, 14, and 12 - for a bit over six years now and everything you said I feel, and I've tried to be that person you described. Whew, it's tough!
I love everything you write and appreciate, beyond measure, your insight, wisdom and humor. I’ve loved both of your books and hope that you are working on another. Thank you for being the best thing in my Inbox anytime you post. Enjoy your time in Florida!
Don't forget mothers & grandmothers of stillborn infants or older children who have died. This mother's day is like acid in my veins
That was a beautiful video. I was looking for resources and saw this.Thank you! And you looked very graceful in the video!
Every STEPPARENT AND their SPOUSES should read this-- the golden rules of step parenting. However, even birth parents would do well to observe many of the same rules. Being a parent of any kind is both rewarding and difficult. Good luck!
Loved your article! My story follows similarly to yours in that I met and married within 7 months of meeting via a dating site, and I quickly became a stepmom to my husband's 7 year old son who is on the autism spectrum and has severe ADHD. C was always quick to correct anyone who even accidentally referred to me as his mom (which is the nature of his particular spot on the spectrum). I agree with you on the majority of your points, but when I my husband and I formed our family, it became obvious that neither he nor his exwife gave C enough consistency, including in the area of discipline, so I had to step in out of necessity. And my husband let me. C accepted it eventually and he's doing okay in life now, 16 years later, because of my "interference". It was extremely difficult raising someone else's special needs child, and he'll never understand the level of dedication and advocacy I provided as he grew up. I didn't get any acknowledgement today, and that's fine. I get to see his successes.