I like the idea of writing a gracious thank you/goodbye note to accompany the Irish goodbye. I also run out of steam at large gatherings, and knowing a have a note would make it easier to even attend if I’m having a little social anxiety. I look forward to small get togethers, larger ones are a little tricky for me.
I've been doin this Irish Goodbye for years at large gatherings and didn't know it. I just leave when I've had enough and hope no one will notice I'm gone. Love the idea of leaving a note. Love this newsletter. Look forward to it every week.
In my day, well-bred Southern girls always took a thank you note to the party to be left in the mailbox, or some other place the hostess would find it, when leaving the party.
My late father was usually the last to leave any gathering. He could talk, as they say, “until the cows come home.” My mom and us kids would often be sitting in the car waiting for him, so we could go home at last. Would that he had learned and appreciated the art of the Irish goodbye. Guess that doesn’t work for someone who has to have the last word!
“…these massive family parties at which I am very much beside the point…” I realized this is why I dread get-togethers with my in-laws! Both my husband (whose family this is) and I are very much beside the point at these gatherings and it gets tedious allowing ourselves to be put in this position although you, Amy, seem to be very gracious about it.
Secondly, I was taught at a very young age that you do not put anything in a mailbox that hasn’t been officially placed there by the U.S. Post Office. The fact that you would casually break this capital rule delights and scares me ☺️
Love this concept of an “Irish goodbye”! Party farewells in our Italian family are pretty similar, and I must admit Jack and I have snuck out on the rarest of occasions because we tend to “leave it on the floor” as well!
I married into an Irish family and have made this habit my own. I find that no one notices when I leave events, large or small, if I just slip away without a word. My excuse is a question about the ladies' room. This works best with my husband's family. However, my police officer daughter does it every night as she leaves for work. I remind myself as I fall asleep to pray for her safety. If I knew when she left, I would do it then.
Thanks for the idea of the note. Slipping out is my go to as an introvert. Love this newsletter!
"...pool of Amy ectoplasm." Love it!
In one of Les Roberts detective novels there was a reference to reading "The Irish Sportspages."
In other words: The Obituaries.
Not sure why it is "Irish" but that is what I read.
I will use your exit strategy if I ever am able to attend a gathering such as you described today.
I like the idea of writing a gracious thank you/goodbye note to accompany the Irish goodbye. I also run out of steam at large gatherings, and knowing a have a note would make it easier to even attend if I’m having a little social anxiety. I look forward to small get togethers, larger ones are a little tricky for me.
I think the Irish Goodbye and I are going to become life-long friends :-)
I've been doin this Irish Goodbye for years at large gatherings and didn't know it. I just leave when I've had enough and hope no one will notice I'm gone. Love the idea of leaving a note. Love this newsletter. Look forward to it every week.
In my day, well-bred Southern girls always took a thank you note to the party to be left in the mailbox, or some other place the hostess would find it, when leaving the party.
Charmin’ piece. Thank you.
Then, there is the Armenian good bye. The opposite of an Irish good bye.
My late father was usually the last to leave any gathering. He could talk, as they say, “until the cows come home.” My mom and us kids would often be sitting in the car waiting for him, so we could go home at last. Would that he had learned and appreciated the art of the Irish goodbye. Guess that doesn’t work for someone who has to have the last word!
You are in fine form in this one, Amy.
Thank you for being you!🥰 G.
Thank you for sharing your ideas and humor.
Two things: when I read this line:
“…these massive family parties at which I am very much beside the point…” I realized this is why I dread get-togethers with my in-laws! Both my husband (whose family this is) and I are very much beside the point at these gatherings and it gets tedious allowing ourselves to be put in this position although you, Amy, seem to be very gracious about it.
Secondly, I was taught at a very young age that you do not put anything in a mailbox that hasn’t been officially placed there by the U.S. Post Office. The fact that you would casually break this capital rule delights and scares me ☺️
Love this concept of an “Irish goodbye”! Party farewells in our Italian family are pretty similar, and I must admit Jack and I have snuck out on the rarest of occasions because we tend to “leave it on the floor” as well!
I married into an Irish family and have made this habit my own. I find that no one notices when I leave events, large or small, if I just slip away without a word. My excuse is a question about the ladies' room. This works best with my husband's family. However, my police officer daughter does it every night as she leaves for work. I remind myself as I fall asleep to pray for her safety. If I knew when she left, I would do it then.